?A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.? Hugh Downs
Frequently mothers put their personal wants, lives and dreams on hold whilst bringing up their family and lose touch with themselves as unique, intelligent individuals with personality, drive and ambition. Life can feel like one big juggling act requiring you to keep your eyes on many balls in the air with very little time for you! You probably give 120%+ to others (your family and work), leaving very little time or energy for you? How does this make you feel? How would you like to feel? How do your feelings affect your relationship with your children and your partner?
Caron Chung, Life Management Coach and NLP Master Practitioner provides us with a few exercises and insights on how to keep on top of the difficult times, as well as offering Members of Please Miss a free no-obligation telephone coaching session to help stressed mum's achieve balance and personal satisfaction in their life - if you're not a member, why not phone Caron anyway on 020 824 89370?
Free up space in your head to think clearly and logically by having a ?rant & rave? with no comeback from others! The following exercise will help you to 'let it all out'? safely!
- For 10 minutes every morning (preferably before you do anything), write down, non-stop, everything that is running through your mind? do not let your pen stop writing, so if you do not know what to write, you will write the exact words that are going through your mind, perhaps something like 'I have no idea what I am supposed to be writing'?.
- Keep writing without stopping for 10 minutes (min).
When you are finished, throw the paper you've written on away. The process is important, not the content - it is an amazing way to let your voice on the inside come out! So, shred it and throw it away, do not read it or show anyone. This is your time to rant and let it all out. The words you write are not important and should simply be what is going on in your mind. You will clear your head of the frustration and fog that frequently stops you thinking clearly.
- Repeat this exercise daily and you will feel the difference it will make!
- If you have the time, extend the time that you devote to this slowly to 30 minutes (if possible).
How frequently do you say things like ?I can't ?.?, ?it's my fault??, ?I don't want??? Some words are empowering and others are not, yet we frequently choose to put ourselves down rather than boost ourselves up! Listen to the language that you use to talk to yourself... are you being supportive and encouraging or if you heard a friend saying the same thing to you, would you feel betrayed and unsupported? If so, why are you putting up with this from yourself??
If you find that you could be more supportive of yourself from the inside (usually the majority of us!), I suggest that you start being your own best friend - speak to yourself as you would to your own friends and as you would like others to speak to you. Again, you will be amazed at how you can turn your feelings around by changing the way you think? become your own best friend!
For example, instead of thinking about what you ?can't do? or 'don't want' start to think about what 'you can do? and what you 'do want?? You will find that life will be a lot happier with a friend on the inside :)
? Caron Chung, Tel. 020 8248 9370; e-mail: caron@caronchung.com
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